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Be Who You Were Born To Be!

We come into life with a double standard.  Our lower leg represents this standard, the lower leg has two bones, and it holds you up in life.  One standard is what the world will want you to be.  The other standard is what you came here to be.  And you spend much of your life negotiating that standard.  “Do I become what the world wants me to become, or do I become what I was sent here to become?”  And if you become who you were sent here to be, you don’t become it at all, you just be it.”

But you have to accommodate the world to a  point because it’s a social enterprise, and there are people in your life that you need to take into consideration.  How much do you accommodate others, and in that accommodation how graceful are you?  The more graceful you are in your daily life will make your life, and your relationships go much smoother.  In a state of grace you can be who you were meant to be and still accommodate the world to a point.

So consistently you must balance this.  Those who don’t balance this, for the most part, are either one of two extremes, Brut or Slave.

Brut consciousness is very successful at times, very disliked most of the time.  For instance, you may know of a very successful person that is very disliked.  A Brut brings their standard, but ignores all other standards.    The other extreme is called slave.  You are consistently viewing who you are communicating with, to determine their approval of you.  You never want to get into a place where you have to actively seek approval from others.   Never get into a place where you have to prove yourself.  “We are not here to prove ourselves, we are here to improve ourselves.”

This is such a valuable lesson to remember every day.  In my own life I try to be conscious of how I am being.  Am I being how everyone else wants me to be, or am I being true to myself.  I know from experience, trying to gain everyones approval will only leave you tired and sad.  There is simply no way to make everyone happy, and we do it at what cost?

But remember, being who you were meant to be takes guts.  It’s much easier to go with the flow, to just fit in to what others want of you.  But that is no life at all, it’s a slave to others expectations.  So be brave, be bold, be honest with yourself, and choose to be you!

With Joy,

Guru Shakti

Meditation To Know Your Truth!

Hello my dear friends,

The past few days I have begun a 120 meditation.  This meditation  will give you the ability to be able to experience the unseen.  It’s nice and easy but it gives you that ability not to be lost in the, “I don’t understand,”  you will feel that peace in your heart.

Please join me in this 120 day commitment.  It’s 11 minutes out of your whole day.  If you can’t find 11 minutes out of 24 hours in a day for yourself then you need to re evaluate your priorities.  This meditation is very calming, it brings you a sense of peace, of understanding, and of knowing.

Do this for 120 days and you will tap into this ability very powerfully.

Here’s a link to Gurmuks weekly message.  At the end of the message she explains how to do this 11 minute meditation.


With Love and Grace,

Guru Shakti

Your Personal Life Lessons!

When you were in your mothers womb you were aware of your vastness, you were aware and excited to come into this world and live a human life.  When you are born suddenly your memory of this knowledge is wiped away and now it’s your job to catch up to this awareness.

In each life time we are presented with a series of lessons that are meant for you to pass through.  In fact all relationships in your life are perfect for the lessons you need to learn.  Any challenging relationships are merely a perfect reflection of the lesson that is trying to get your attention

For instance, my father and I went for years without talking, we had a painful and resentful relationship and just couldn’t make it work.  It wasn’t until I realized the lesson that I wasn’t seeing in this situation.  I was failing to take 100% responsibility for my part in this relationship.  I was putting so much blame on him and felt like the victim.  I realized that being the victim in this situation was never going to lead to my liberation, my enlightenment in this life time.  And I have no desire to re live this un finished lesson again in my next life.

Where is there a lot of pain or hurt in your life?  Perhaps you have a relationship that is un settled, an addiction that you give into, a dream that you ignore with distraction, and so on!  Don’t you think it’s time to take 100% responsibility for your life and take care of these lessons?  Are you willing to be that courageous to take one step, not knowing how, just knowing why?  This is exactly what I’ve done with my dad, and because of this level of responsibility I now have, I know it can only succeed.

You’ve been given this life as a gift to take care of these things here and now, don’t postpone your growth and wait for another life to get out of your ignorance.  Ignorance does not mean your dumb, it simply means you ignore what you know, so let’s stop ignoring what we already know.

Much love,

Guru Shakti

Kids Who Love Nature!

I can remember how awesome it was to step outside on a rainy day when I was a young girl.  My brothers and I would spend hours on end running through puddles, riding bikes through puddles, racing little boats in the gutter, and playing make believe games.  The rain seemed to make it even more fun and adventurous.

It seemed so strange to me and it still does that some kids were not allowed to play in the rain.  Instead they had to find things to doors and miss out on the rain.  I thank my mom and dad for letting us play outside and explore because those were some of the moments where I feel I discovered my passions in life.

I read this great book called, “Last Child In The Woods, Saving Our Children From Nature Deficit Disorder.”  In this book he tells his sotry of growing up as a boy, his exploration outdoors on a daily basis.  Granted it’s not always safe to just let your kids run where ever they want to go these days but with super vision and outings our children can get their chance to be in nature too.

Here’s some of our favorite things to do with the kids…

1.  Play at the park

2.  A day at the beach

3.  Hiking at a local trail

4.  Quiet walks

5.  Playing in the yard

6.  Helping out in a garden, or local farm

7.  Climbing a big tree

There are so many more things to do, nature is all around us.  So how about you make a list of ideas and encourage those children to get out of the house and into nature, you can join them too and have a lot of fun together.

Love you all,

Guru Shakti

“I am who I am and that is that, you are who I am can you imagine that?”

What does this mean?  In this world that we live in we feel separate, and it appears we are separate from one another.  But this is not the case.  When you hear someone say, “We are all one,”  It may sound like some super spiritual, and hippie talk, but this is the reality that we live in.

There is something called Inspirational mirroring, this is when you make a practice out of seeing yourself in others.  That means you see your reflection in your surroundings, in the people you interface with in your life every day.  Sometimes this can be so challenging.  When we communicate with someone who seems to be displaying the most ridiculous, mean, rude, strange, and other kinds of weird behavior we tend to think something is wrong with them.  Internally we may feel we could never ever act that way, never do those thing.

Since I started practicing this I have been able to see so many lessons that I have yet to learn, lessons that need to be over come.  When ever I feel annoyed or upset by someone a big red flag goes off in my head and it says, “Guru Shakti, this is apart of your reflection, you need to work through this, don’t ignore it or the reflection will keep coming back.”  Now I’m not saying I’m perfect and this works all the time, but the more I practice this the more compassion I have for those around me, and for myself.

I ask you this, “Can you begin to take responsibility for your world?  Can you see your reflection in others?”  Go out into the world today and try inspirational mirroring for the first time.  Look around your world, what do you notice, how do  you feel?  If you don’t like what the reflection is reflecting back then perhaps you need to give yourself some TLC.

Since your world begins and ends with you, you can improve your reflection by taking care of yourself.  I know if I miss a morning of daily yoga or meditation I feel rigid and my world seems tough, I see is in the reflection around me.  So you can bet your butt I’m up each morning doing that yoga and meditation.  For you it may be a nice work out, a hot bath, a cold shower for hydrotherapy, a brisk walk, and so on.

Here’s a question I get all the time.

“So if this is true then why is there so much suffering in the world.”  At the root of the suffering it all comes down to feeling seperate.  Most people don’t understand or are ready to embrace the fact that we are all one.  Since we are all one that means your suffering is my suffering, all those children starving, is us starving too, and yes the war on terror is our own internal terror.  When you begin to really embrace this your capacity to help outside yourself opens up.

I’ve witnessed it in my own life.  I used to be incredibly self consumed which is not bad at all, I needed to go through that, but it left little room or desire to help anyone else.  Over the years, and even now I am working on handling the internal things that keep me bound to me me me, and allows me more space for all my other sisters and brothers who need help.  It is awesome and challenging, but so worth it.

So to conclude, you may be feeling this is ridiculous or wonderful, either way what do you have to loose by exploring this yourself?

Like I said before, How about trying this out, “Be a inspirational mirror er, and transform the reflection of your life.”


Guru Shakti

Women As A Community!

A week ago I was blessed enough to be invited to a home schooling group, my good friend Katherine has home schooled her children for a few years now and has been involved in many different groups.  I have home schooled for many years my self but had not ventured out to seek other home schooling groups.

Now I get why it is so important to have a community of women, Of people, with a common ground to walk upon.  Not only did the children have a blast running all over that park, yelling, chasing each other, playing, spinning, climbing trees, tie dying T Shirts, Communicating, Eating, You name it.  But we had such a great time talking and laughing among other mothers who home school their children too.  As we sat under a shaded tree surrounded by out little babies and toddlers, we talked, nursed, ate snacks, laughed, and enjoyed the splendor of getting to know each other.

I loved sitting back and admiring the different styles of parenting, the added character that each mother brought to the group.  Yes we have so much in common but we are all so unique so each person brought something special to the group.  I was reminded of my trip to Fiji with my husband Dan.  As we drove from the air port and to our resort we had to pass through many small villages.  The Local Fijians live in small villages with about 200 people.  Everyone is so kind, and everyone knows one another.

What struck me was how the men spent the day with other men, they worked and took care of their responsibilities.  We passed by a group of women, all from the village.  They washed their clothes in a running creek, the kids played near by swimming, splashing, laughing, and enjoying being kids.  I loved seeing how all the women helped each other.  Yes they were hard at work, taking care of their responsibilities, but they socialized and helped one another.  I could feel the sense of respect and care they had for one another.

That is what I relate our day at the park too.  I felt like we were those women, we have our own community of women, supporting one another, learning from one another, and so on.

I feel blessed to have these new friends!

A Right of Passage!

While on an amazing hike today with my three children, my best friend Katherine, and her two daughters, we had a really great conversation about our daughters and what it will be like for them when they begin to grow from a child and into a woman.  In other cultures it has been a long standing tradition to have a very clear right of passage.  When a girl gets her period it is considered a very special and sacred time.  In fact in certain indigenous tribes, when a woman gets her period she goes to a special part of the village to be only with other women, during that time.  She will rest and take care of herself because it is a sacred cycle of her body.

Both Katherine and I agree that we must be open and talk freely about the changes our daughters are going through.  If they have questions answer them, if they have concerns help them to understand that what is going on with their growth is helping them to grow into a divine woman.

We have it back wards in America.  Our right of passage of teens is to send them off to the mall.  It’s a form of Independence to be able to wonder the mall for hours on end with other teens.   Our teens are bombarded with so much information, and so much stimuli.  Our teens are so impressionable at this time in their lives so why the hell are we allowing them to be subjected to so much crap, excuse my french.  If you lived in a tribe, once you grow into your teens you are sent on a vision quest.  This is a time of quiet, of solitude, it is a girl or boys time to discover themselves and grow into a real man or woman.  It is understood that a teen is going through so much emotionally and physically, lets not forget hormonally and the vision quest is mean to guide them through all of this internal resistance.

We don’t live in small tribes here, it’s not common to send out kids on vision quests and celebrate right of passage, but as parents we can create this for them.  My husband and I are going to create something that works for our girls and our son, we as parents will give them a chance to have a right of passage and a vision quest, even if it is in the center of a modern country.

This can be fun and a bonding experience for all of you.  Try doing some research, their are other people in the US who are doing this for their kids too.  Check out and get some ideas so you can do this for your growing children.

Ahhh… To Be In Nature!

Are you indoors right now?  Well then get up, and take a nice cleansing step outside.

Most of us spend a majority of our time indoors.  We work all day, and rush home, only to be indoors again.  Well it’s time to get outside and breathe.  As women, we are so connected to nature, to our mother Earth.  I really encourage you to get outside for a walk each day.  Nature has a rhythm and so do our bodies.  Walking is so beneficial for women because it puts your body back into it’s natural rhythm with nature.

One of my favorite things to do is watch the sunset.  I’m so busy home schooling our kids, helping my husband with our business, and taking care of the things that need to be done at home so I tend to do my walks in the evening before dinner.  My husband gets home and it’s my chance to step out for a walk.  I listen to my favorite meditative music and admire the world around me.  The sun setting always seems so therapeutic to me.  I go home feeling balanced and calm.  Especially if I’ve had a challenging day it’s amazing how a walk can make everything clear.

Remember if you feel tired or stressed out, instead of reaching for something to help get you by, like caffeine.  Try stepping outside.  Nature and fresh air really are the best medicine!

Feeding My Life And My Soul With Food!

Do you like to eat?  I know I do!

I don’t know a single person who doesn’t enjoy a good meal prepared with love.  But why is it that so many people seem to have a lot of issues when it comes to food?  Everything from over eating, eating disorders, and poor nutritional intake.  Truly the way we eat, and how we relate to the food we put into our bodies, is how we feel about ourselves and your life.  And what we put and don’t put into our bodies affects the quality of our lives.  Remember that your body is what carries you through this life and if it’s not treated with care, then your life will reflect that.

Now, I don’t mean you can’t go out and indulge in a wonderful meal but the way you approach your meal will make all the difference.  It will determine how your body accepts the meal and how your body processes the meal.

I can relate first hand to this lesson.  For years I struggled with an eating disorder.  I took me being brutally honest with myself and the people around me to stop the behavior.  It had little to do with being thin and way more to do with being happy with who I was on the inside.

As I have distanced myself from the eating disorder I have learned ways to respect the food that I eat.  I can now see the distinction between the way I used to treat food and myself, and how I now respect both food and myself.  It’s the difference of a totally different life.  Just a simple step of lovingly respecting the food I eat has changed my life.

Here are some ways that you can relate to food in a more loving, and positive way.

Remember to prepare your food with love.  Some people think of cooking as a meditation.  You can actually send good emotions into the food you eat.  I encourage you to slow down a bit.  Even if you are a very busy, fast paced person, you can still sit down. Put your fork down for a second and take and take few deep breaths before you begin to eat.  It is a totally different experience to breathe consciously while you eat, instead of inhaling your food in one bite.

At our home we began to have family dinners.  It’s a priority now.  This is our time to reconnect at the end of the day, encourage communication with our children, and have some good laughs.  Believe me whey I say our family dinners are far from proper.  We laugh, joke, and have a good time.  I tried to get my family to be quiet and calm at dinner but I found out quickly that it just wasn’t the way of our little family.  I stopped pushing and relaxed into having fun.  That’s what it’s all about, having a good time, and a good meal.

I like to lead our family in giving thanks. In your own way you could practice being thankful for your meal too.  Remember there are people who have nothing to eat, and you are sitting there able to nourish the body you were blessed with.  Thank God, the divine, or what ever you believe in for this meal. Allow your body to be nourished and loved!

In many house houses it’s the woman who makes and serves the food.   If this is the case in your family then this is a powerful chance for you to re create dinnertime for your family.  You can make it any way you want it to be!  Do it and watch how wonderful it is for your family.

Till Death Do Us Part… And Forever!

It’s everywhere we look:  on television, in movies, and in real life.  Couples falling passionately in love, getting married, perhaps have a family, only to divorce years later.
It almost seems like the norm to divorce each other.  But what happened to, “till death do us part?”  They came before God, before family, and friends to devote their lives to each other.  And when times got tough, things were said and done.  Instead of sticking it out side by side, they decided it’s time to start over.

From personal experience, marriage is not always easy.  Not at all.  You two come together in marriage, both with a basket of things from your past.  You do your best to sort it all out while doing your best to keep your relationship going strong.

My husband and I had been through many ups and downs.  There were times when I thought, “This is the end.”  Thank God my teacher Guru Singh helped us through it and taught me what marriage is really all about, and what true commitment looks like.  To be honest, I’d heard of commitment but like most of us, I had not yet grasped what it really meant.  Commitment means, “I am here for you, you are here for me no matter what happens.”  It’s simply taking divorce out of the picture.

Just like Will Smith said when asked about his long lasting marriage to Jada Pinkett-Smith,  “We simply take divorce out of the equation, it’s not an option.”

Commitment is stronger than any emotion you could ever feel.  It means when you feel angry, upset, sad, or like it’s over, you know those are just emotions and they will pass.
Not only will this lesson save your marriage, it will renew it.  Your marriage will never be the same knowing that you are together forever.  There is no, “Till death do us part.”  You are committed through this lifetime and the next and the next.

Just think about your current relationship or marriage.  Are you committed to them 150%?   Is there ever any threat of one of you leaving?  Can you imagine for a moment how your marriage would change if you knew there was no way of it failing?  That kind of marriage feels secure, strong, and is so much happier.  Right now you can decide to be that committed to your husband or wife, even your boyfriend or girlfriend.  The quality and feeling you experience in your relationship will immediately change.

And if you have kids, just think about the kind of example you will be for them.  They will see you both committed to each other, and naturally that is what they will gravitate to in their own relationships. That is the biggest gift you could ever give them.

In marriage, no one gets off the relation(ship)-Guru Singh

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